Out of Mood ………….. How to choose your mate 2/2
by Hala Kamal on Friday, 22 April 2011 at 23:46 ·
6 – If there’s one thing that makes the difference among life-long lovers , a person who has the ability to learn, there’s a saying in spanish: ” ignorante’ spoko tolerante’ ” it means those who are without knowledge are often intolerant, those who can not know or learn new ways, seek things in new lights , be able to be curious about the world & how things work , often close up & say: no… things have to be this & that way only and for life-long relationships, it’s better to have someone who doesn’t lack flexibility or open-mindedness, gradually learning to evolve…
7 – Choose someone who’s willing to be like you both strong & sensitive those qualities that women have sometimes: being tough and fragile, tough on one side and fragile on the other.
They can take huge loads but they may fall apart over some things that are really small and simple.
It’s somehow like a tree, deep rooted in the earth, it may go back and forth with the strong wind but it won’t bend or break. In terms of sensitivity, we mean the ability to see, to be alert towards each others’ feelings and needs of their minds as well as of their hearts.
Some people have problems articulating it, so (going back to number 6) is so important, as you know you may have all the potentials in the world, to be kind, loving, and devoted and the most excellent lover known to human kind, but if you can’t learn to develop your potential, then Nada (nothing).
8- Choose someone who has similar passions in life to your own. A relationship is for making memories together, like saving accounts. And you do things together, like taking snap shots and saving for later, this is the glue of a relationship. There grow memories, remembering good times together, but also going through hard times. A strong relationship most certainly is built on mutual support, sharing something simple as: lying in the bathtub together, something as drying your hair out in the sunshine together, like walking around the block every night.
9- Choose someone who can laugh at themselves in the midst of an argument, the value is not only having someone who can do it, but you yourself must know how and when to stop and make a joke, suddenly he or she responses and you may find yourselves laughing and crying altogether. It’s a real gift, it takes practice and it’s a skill.
10- Being able to overlook certain faults and characteristics, maybe something which was in the beginning nice and charming, may later on be unacceptable or drive you crazy.
So, know what you can live with and don’t be seduced by thinking that something really is annoying to other people but for you it’s ok, because you are in love, and he or she who does it, is your lover.
The case is if it’s a dramatic fault, you’ll never be able to accept it or cure it, for instance, several things that are intolerable in any relationship, whether it’s a marriage, business partnership or anything else…
Alcoholism, abuse of any kind, gambling, criminal activity, anything that takes the person away from his true self and life… a person cannot tell the truth, a person who cannot give loyalty or sincerity, a person who is used to make mistakes and always covers it up dramatically, thus you’d be starting the relationship on a shaking or unbalanced ground.
Hala Kamal
hala.kamal@gmail.com
22-4-2011
Towards Horizon 